When we are drinking alcoholics or using drugs, we have many common problems in our lives. Not all of these apply to every alcoholic or addict but the common themes are that we lie a lot; we do not show any real interest in things around us; we have eating issues; physically not strong; moody, defensive, and / or verbally abusive; we do not take care of our surroundings; we are depressed; have low self worth etc etc.
If you are an alcoholic or using addict I would be amazed if a number of these things do not apply to you. If you are someone who loves and cares for a drinker or addict you probably recognise these behaviours in the one you love.
Alcoholics Why Do We Lie?
Why do we lie? For several reasons . The obvious one is that we do not want to be found out and we cannot believe that you really know what is going on. So if we tell you we are not lying and look you in the eye, we think there is a good chance you will have to believe us and we will not be found out. I know people who have insisted they have no alcohol and have not had a drink when the evidence is poking out or clanking in their handbag at their feet. The other reason we lie is that we don’t want to hurt you with the truth yet again.
Why Do We Show No Interest in Things Around Us?
Why do we show no interest in the things around us? Because our only real interest is where our next drink or drug is coming from. Also we feel depressed (usually as a direct result of our drinking or using. We feel bad about it and alcohol and many other drugs are chemical depressants in themselves. And anti-depressants don’t work if mixed with alcohol). For this same reason, we may be physically present for our families but we are emotionally absent.
Heavy drinking is also associated with poor eating habits and appetite. We get all our calories from the alcohol, and our depression and stress levels (which ultimately are caused by the drinking even if initially alcohol lifted our mood and made us feel relaxed) means that we find it difficult to want to or actually eat.
When We Stop Drinking, Many Of Our Issues Disappear!
When we stop drinking or using, many of these issues disappear! We no longer have the need to lie. We begin to take an interest in people and the world around us because our focus has changed. Our appetite returns and with it our physical strength. Our moods which are frequently fuelled by guilt disappear. The depressed state we were in is removed and we begin to value ourselves.
It is wonderful to welcome each new day without regrets about the previous day or without having to piece the events of the previous day together. And we need never have another hangover in my life. That is freedom!
The Haynes Clinic is a drug and alcohol rehab clinic offering detox and treatment for those suffering from addiction to alcohol, drugs and prescription medication. Call 01462 851414 for confidential help and advice.
